After the screening of Blue Valentine on Friday night, Producer Jamie Patricof gave us a little background on how long it has taken to get this film to the screen. He’s been on board for 9 of the 12 years Derek Cianfance (Brother Tide) was in the midst of both writing  and directing this wonderfully, heart-wrenching depiction of a couple learning each other, needing each other and then needing different things and hurting each other.In the first incarnation of the screenplay Cianfrance had planned to cast an actress by the name of Shannon Plum, although she ultimately never got the role, she did land the director, Cianfrance and Plum are now married with two kids.

At one time the movie was to feature Rachel Weisz and Jeremy Renner, but it was before these two were who they are now and nobody was interested. Rachel McAdams wanted the role, and again, was nobody at the time – hard to get financing without a name star attached. He also said Michelle Williams early on fell in love with the script and was actually stalking Derek to get the part, but this was when she was just the girl from Dawson’s Creek and they weren’t interested.

Fast forward a couple of years, now they are interested in Michelle, are ready to start production and Heath Ledger dies, which of course, understandably causes yet another delay.

And as if things weren’t delayed enough, Ryan Gosling wanted to shoot all the scenes when they meet and fall in love, and then wait five actual years later to start shooting the scenes when the relationship is falling apart.

Well, it would seem everyone involved got the timing right now. This movie is on everyone’s list of must sees, getting high praise for it’s honest depiction of a marriage. Your first response is to the complete commitment both Ryan Gosling and Michelle Williams give to the roles. But you also respond to the atmosphere of the movie, with scenes like the one shot in the odd blue light of the “romantic getaway” Future Room. The room is so much like their relationship, seems like a good idea, should be enjoyed, but instead it’s annoying and claustrophobic. I also love their argument reflected in the glass of the doctor’s office front desk partition; simultaneously we can see the co-workers real facial expressions and reactions.

That’s the thing about this movie, afterward you bring your own experience and reactions, you want to discuss who’s right and who’s wrong in the relationship. My first reaction was that Cindy (Williams) should just take a chill pill; other than the receding hairline, mustache and extra weight, what happened to change her feelings towards Dean (Gosling) so much? Then I flipped and thought, well, he can be a bit obnoxious at times and too childlike, she really has out grown him.

I couldn’t help but be reminded of the recent split between Courteney Cox-Arquette and David Arquette, “a deals a deal” (wedding rings inscription) until Courtney got sick of this deal that granted her an adopted son, rather than a husband.

As far as the NC-17 rating is concerned, I couldn’t figure out how Gosling going down on Williams is any more sexually explicit than Kunis going down on Portman in Black Swan. Then a friend pointed out that the sex scenes in Blue Valentine do go on a bit in real time.

It’s not due out until around Christmas, hopefully, they’ll do some minor edits to receive the R rating. It would be wrong to have anything else get in the way of this film on the way to the Oscars!

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